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I've wanted a b00b job for as long as I can remember.

But not in the way people assume.

Whenever I tell people I want one, they immediately try to talk me out of it. They assume I mean I want perkier breasts, more full breasts, or just “better” breasts.

And I’m always like… no.

If anything, I’ve spent years wishing I could just take mine off. Like they were an accessory I could remove before bed the same way I take off my earrings.

For a long time, I told myself it was about comfort.

Fitting into clothes more easily, less back pain, running being easier.

Or not struggling to shop because everything is too small or too sexy.

And sure, all of that is true.

But recently I realized that’s not actually the reason.

I’m just tired of being sexualized against my will. On the internet, in the grocery store, by my friends grandpa...

I’ve had a large chest since I was around 12 years old. Before I even understood what was happening, I understood that my body got attention I didn’t ask for.

I learned really quickly that there was this impossible expectation to somehow be “pure” and not “too much” at the exact same time… even though I couldn’t control the rate my body was growing at all.

And that messes with you.

Because people frame a large chest as an “asset.”

Girls with smaller chests have told me for years they wish they had what I have.

But I don’t want what comes with it.

I don’t want the staring, the comments, or to constantly feel aware of my body in every room I walk into.

I don’t want my chest to be the first thing people notice about me.

And I think that’s the part that’s hard to explain.

Because I don’t actually hate my body.

I honestly love it sometimes.

I have sports bras that make running possible. I’m still going to run that marathon one day.

So this isn’t really about wanting a smaller chest.

It’s about wanting the attention off my body for once.

Wanting someone’s first impression of me to be my mind, or my humor, or my compassion…

Not a body part I never asked to be known for.

If my honest words have hit on any truth in you too, I'd be so grateful if you replied to this email, with even just a word or an emoji. It would remind me I'm not alone & neither are you.

Xo,

Coach Sarah💛

let's tap into body love together. Sarah Simpson is a body image coach helping you defeat negative self talk & redefine “healthy” without a weight or pant size attached. Sarah grew up always feeling like the “bigger friend” of the group, constantly aware of her size. She felt compelled to coach others to find confidence in their body & wellness after realizing how much her body insecurity was impacting her life. She runs workshops & retreats, bringing womxn together. She also works with clients in her group coaching program the Dream Girl Circle, and in private sessions.